Hello, Beautiful Sister.
I’ve been praying and pondering a lot here lately about feeling lost without a purpose. Lots of journaling, crying out to God for clarity and direction. Trying to grab a hold of “feelings” and working through anxiety and perfectionism.
And I thought of other women who may be struggling too: Struggling with feeling lost with no purpose. Beautiful sisters around the globe wondering this question: “What do you do when you feel you have no talent?”
A few things I want to say to you with love and directness.
First, STOP saying, “I have no talent.” You do. This is a lie that the Enemy uses to blind and bind God’s people from serving. You are designed. You are created. You are God’s handiwork; His poema.
I want to share with you a few steps that I use when I feel stuck in one of these mindset holding places.
1.) KNOW THE TRUTH.
Let’s take a look at God’s truths about who you are:
1.| God designed and created you. He spoke you into motion. David wrote in Psalm 139: 13-16,
“For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you
when I was made in the secret place,
when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
Your eyes saw my unformed body;
all the days ordained for me were written in your book
before one of them came to be.”
You are not an accident. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. That means there’s a spirit inside you crying out to serve. Feeling like you have no talent or no purpose is the very thing the Lord can use for you to SEEK HIM! It is no accident that you are reading this today. The Father is passionately pursuing you to know His truth about who you were created to be.
2.| You have a purpose. Paul wrote this to the church in Ephesus:
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. (Ephesians 2:10)
He promises us right here in Ephesians 2:10, Sister, that YOU were created to do good works. Your whole life has been preparing you for this. In every situation that the Enemy has attacked you, your Father has been there working for you! (Romans 8:28) Your mess becomes the Message when we share how He has redeemed us and is working through us.
Trust and believe God’s promise about your identity in Him. For years, the Enemy blinded me from knowing who I was in Christ. You can read all about how the Lord changed my mindset and my life and “unlabeled” me from the Enemy’s lies HERE.
Sister, if you are struggling with your identity, I encourage you to take a look at UNLABELED to learn how to capture every thought and make it obedient to Christ.
2.) DEFINE “TALENT”.
What is a talent? In the New Testament, Jesus shares the parable of the talents (Matthew 25). At the time of his teaching, a talent was a large sum of money (about 2 years of wages is what some historians tell us). This word has now changed in meaning to describe something people are good at. I want to challenge you to go beyond both of these definitions and think of a talent as a gift from God that we use to serve, honor and glorify Him. It is also something we use to serve and uplift others to help them draw closer to God.
A talent is a gift from God that we use to serve, honor and glorify Him. It is also something we use to serve and uplift others to help them draw closer to God.
There are actually three types of talents: natural, spiritual, and physical/material.
Many times when we think of the word talent, the obvious ones that arise are actually public displays of gifts or acts of service. We might think of people who sing well or speak or write eloquently. We might think of those who are “smart” and share wisdom. We might think of those great teachers in our Bible class or the PTO Mom who always has things organized.
Public acts of service are wonderful things, but talent can also be hidden.
Talents are not just public acts of service. God calls us to worship and serve Him privately too. (Matthew 6:6) I think of the mother who is patient with her children, who folds the laundry with love. I picture the woman who is in her room praying over others before the sun rises. I envision the friend who sends a simple text message or a card in the mail to encourage others. I see the beautiful sister who structures her family time so that she can read with her children and snuggle them in every night. I believe there are hidden talents that the world cannot begin to define.
3.) EVALUATE YOUR STRENGTHS + SKILLS
Talent goes beyond these public displays of gifts and acts of service. Talents show up in so many areas of our lives that we tend to overlook. Remember, that you are designed, God’s handiwork, and created for a purpose. This means that THE CREATOR gave you strengths and skills to use to honor + glorify Him.
Strengths are “who we are” down within our core. Take a look at this list of strengths.
Skills are “what we do” that serve as acts of worship + service. Take a look at this list of skills.
Of course, this is not an exhaustive list! I may have missed a few that relate to who you are or things that you’re skilled at! (If I did, leave me a comment below. I would love to hear what the Lord’s blessed you with!)
Can you list 3-5 strengths and skills that you recognize within yourself? Be honest.
Don’t let the Enemy fool you. Sober-judgment of who God created you to be is not the same as pride and arrogance. Humility is being grounded in who God created you to be, not downplaying what He’s given you.
Truly evaluate your strengths and skills. This is how you begin to discover your talents and the best ways that you can serve and honor The Creator.
4.) RECOGNIZE THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT AS TALENTS
If our talents are strengths or skills that we can use to draw others closer to God, then we must recognize that the fruit of the Spirit manifests as talents in our lives.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law.”
As we lean into God and grow closer to Him, the more the fruit of the Spirit is manifested in our lives. It is an outpouring or an overflow of what we glean from the true fruit of the vine. The fruit becomes abundant in our lives and nourishes other people.
Out of these, we are able to share the gospel and truth with a purpose.
- We love with a purpose.
- We are faithful with a purpose.
- We exhibit self-control and peace with a purpose.
- We are kind and good and gentle with a purpose.
AN ACTION PLAN FOR YOU
My goal is to always build you with simple Christ-centered tools. Today, I give you a simple action plan to help you pause and evaluate what you can do when you feel you have no talent.
1.| Pause and pray for wisdom and clarity.
2.| Write out God’s truth about who you are.
3.| Write out 3-5 strengths + skills you have right now.
4.| Write out a list of activities you want to do (or already do) using these strengths + skills. How will you use these as acts of worship + service?
5.| Add these activities to a goal sheet or tracker (I have one here) to help you create a new habit.
Sister, if you can do nothing else, you can praise Him. For truly, that is what we are designed to do. To give back to the One who created us. You can rise up daily, spend quiet time with the Creator and write out gratitude. You can sing His praises.
He desires your heart. If you can do nothing else, you can use your life as a testimony for Him. Allow your mess to become His message through your life story. Let your talent lie in your praises, your gratitude, and your heart of worship.
“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good.
And what does the Lord require of you?
To act justly and to love mercy
and to walk humbly with your God.”
Blessings from my toolbox to yours,
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